Is it possible
to get along with someone who is the polar opposite of you?
It sure is—provided there is mutual respect between the two of you. And not only do you both survive your interactions, you are most likely more powerful together than when apart.
Opposites often see the world through different lenses. Engaging with them exposes you to new ideas, viewpoints, and ways of approaching problems that you might not have considered on your own. This can challenge your assumptions and expand your understanding of various situations and needs.
Where you might be weak, your opposite might be strong, and vice versa. Collaborating (or even just interacting) can lead to a more balanced and effective approach to tasks and life in general. For example, if you are a detail-oriented person, you can benefit from the 'big-picture' thinking of your opposite. Similarly, your opposite can benefit from your attention to detail in ways they never would have thought of.
As applies to groups, when differing perspectives collide, it can spark new and innovative solutions. Opposites can bring unique ideas to the table that wouldn't have emerged in a homogenous group.
Let's look at a few do’s and don’ts to help us navigate 'opposite' relationships:
DO
- Focus on shared values and goals
- Respect each other as well as your differences
- Ask questions of the other person without judgment and express sincere interest in the answers
- Embrace the learning opportunity presented by the relationship
- Capitalize on each other’s strengths and talents
- Use humor to each tension
DON’T
- Be impatient or intolerant
- Rush to assumption or judgment
- Stereotype or label
- Resist compromise
- Be cagey or petulant
Your action prompt is to spend more time with someone who seems to be the opposite of you and find a specific way to maximize on a key difference.
"The important balance of Yin and Yang in our lives teaches us that harmony is achieved through embracing our differences."
Taoist concept